alright heres the low down

Just visited my folks today and boy do we have a mess there! I walked in the house and said somthing light hearted and funny to my mom and she snorted at me and said "I am so pissed off" i return "why mom, whats wrong?" she snorts again and says "oh marital difficulties" "WHAT?"

time out, Amy's gettin out of the shower...........

Ok, so I knew a little of whats been going on since my brother called me Saturday afternoon in a tizzy. (little background) My mom, dad and brother are living together in the same house we all grew up in. My parents are in their mid to upper 70's and my brother is 49. My brother has never been married or had children. He sold his house 3 years ago to live with them as they are getting up in years and may need some help with the house. While he was going thru the sale I remember walkin in the backyard with my dad and he said "I don't know why your brother is selling his home, i hope he doesn't think he's comin here!" All the while my brother had every intension to move back home but never bothered to tell Dad.

My fathers health is not great. He takes 5 medications and for what (i find out today) nobody knows. Mom is upset because he does nothing around the house "except move from one chair to another and sleep" all day long.

My brother is upset for the same reasons. (I think he started the whole feud)

I just had to write this down and spill my guts cuz at this time - i have no one to takl to about this. I got off the phone with him a couple hours ago and he started gettin on my case because "i'm sticking up for HIM". (can you see the family divide?)

time out gotta emergency to handle - Amy sized emergency!
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OK, today is a new day huh? Sorry about the scare, Amy is fine. After the "emergency" of not being able to find her stuffed puppy she sleeps with all was right with the world and i fell asleep watching her sleep.
Wow, after reading this again I was a mess last night. I'm gonna finish up these ugly thoughts and put it away.
Last Saturday afternoons conversation with my brother went like this:
Brother asked, what are you doing this weekend?
I said, Nothing why?
B: Well there is something i got for your yard and i wanted to bring it over and things have gotten really bad here and i need to get away for a while.
I: You can stop over anytime we will be here. Why are things so bad at home?
B: well, i feel like i'm on the verge of hurting someone. it's that bad! I feel like i'm gonna end up on the news. we'll both be suprised if i don't. well, i put a knife in moms back when i had a fight with her last week about how lazy her husband (your father) is and she should do somthing about it. i got so mad i told her to write me a check and i'll be gone. She said she would but never did.

The conversation with my mom yesterday wentlike this:

Mom: He (my father) just sits around all day and does nothing. He moves from one chair to another and sleeps. He came home late from church, i wonder if he fell asleep there. He is on 5 different medications, one is for high blood pressure and one is to treat gout but what are the other 3 for?
I: well did you ask him?
M: yea but he don't know. I told him to call the doctors on monday and ask them but did he? no. Why the hell would you not know what you are taking medication for and why would you think that this sleeping all the time is ok?
I: well the doctors may not tell you what the meds are for but call the local pharmisist, he could give you some general information which would be a start.

then late last night my brother calls me to ask me if mom said anything to ME about whats going on. that went like this:

Me: yea she told me she was really pissed off
Brother: Ya know I could understand if he had an illness or something which made him not do anything around the house but he's just plain lazy. And i swear since mom said something to him he's gotten even lazier!
Me: well he is in his upper 70's and has a hard time getting around....
well that's all my brother needed to hear and he was off and screaming at me. and inbetween the screaming said things like "I wish he'd have a heart attack or something" , "I wish he'd go off and live at one of those 'homes' so i wouldn't have to see it" , "ya know i'd be happy if he just did something, anything, even just go for a walk everyday" , "all he does is cut the grass, edge the lawn and take out the trash, which takes all of 3 hours every week" , "OK fine if he's not going to do anything then at least say thank you for all the things i'm doing around here"

BLAH, BLAH, BLAH, BLAH, BLAH, BBBBBBLLLLLLLLLAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHH!


It's all a bunch of nonsense! created because of no communication and no respect.